The Joy of Missing Out

Finding Balance in a Wired World

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The Joy of Missing Out is a highly praised book by Canadian author Christina Crook that reveals how the keys to our joy come from intentional connections and presence, not from our smartphones.

Giving Away Peace of Mind in time for the New Year

Hello to Everyone who is visiting from Genevieve Georget's wonderful post about The Joy of Missing Out!

Genevieve and I virtually befriended one another shortly after our all-too-similar posts arrived on the scene in October. Her honest Facebook post struck a chord with me and about a million other people. Our friendship was forged in a shared belief that “The pictures are pretty, but the struggle is real.

It is with great joy that I give away two copies of The Joy of Missing Out to her readers.

Without further ado, the winners are... Elsey Hartman + Monica Sosa  

[Please email me at with your mailing address and I will package them up with jingle bells (really!) extra treats and lots of love and care.] 

But for those of you who came all this way, don’t leave now! Stick with me for a moment, I have some more good news!

For every copy of The Joy of Missing Out purchased between now and Sunday, Dec 20 (11:59 PM ET) I am giving away a FREE copy of the *Letters from a Luddite eBook.

(*The original full-colour series of 31 letters from the offline experiment that inspired #JOMO.)


Photo credit: Leemarc Lao

Photo credit: Leemarc Lao

Here's why:

For all of 2015 I have been captivated by these words from Annie Dillard: How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives.

Stop and consider what she is saying. The rhythms and choices of each day: the people you see, the work you do, the things you click, the rest you take (or don’t take,) the exercise you do (or don't do.) Those daily habits, right now, are making your life. 

The question then is, did you like today? 

If not, chances are you don't like your life much.

Over and over I hear people share how tired and stressed they are. They simply can't keep up. I couldn’t either. That’s why I took the radical step of saying goodbye to the Internet for 31 days:


"Through historical data, typewritten letters, chapter challenges and personal accounts, The Joy of Missing Out, leads us on a unique exploration of the modern world, revealing how presentness, intentionality and limited connections are the keys to our joy."


(Buy from OR simply email your receipt from ChaptersIndigo/Amazon/Barnes&Noble to and you will receive your FREE Letters from a Luddite ebook directly in your inbox)  

What are people saying about The Joy of Missing Out?

  —Dr. Read Mercer Schuchardt, Associate Professor of Communication, Wheaton College  


—Dr. Read Mercer Schuchardt, Associate Professor of Communication, Wheaton College


Who knew you could gain so much by selectively giving up so little?  

“Intuitive, sensitive, interested in the little moments that make up our life's significance, valuing the qualitative over the quantitative, interested in quality, and finding the ways in which technology can help the infant, the elderly, the sick, and the victim, Ms. Crook writes a book in search of those human qualities that matter most.”

  —Dr. Susan Biali, M.D., Psychology Today columnist, medical doctor, and author of Live a Life You Love: 7 Steps to a Healthier, Happier, More Passionate You


—Dr. Susan Biali, M.D., Psychology Today columnist, medical doctor, and author of Live a Life You Love: 7 Steps to a Healthier, Happier, More Passionate You


Have you got a sense that something is off with your life?

“I have had that feeling for a while. For a few months now I have been determined to get back to this state of openness and joyful creativity. Christina Crook's new book, The Joy of Missing, came along just in time.” 


Are you experiencing the pressure and disconnection of a fast-paced, media-saturated culture? If so, this book is a life-changer. 




“Christina Crook’s eloquently expressed insights have left a lasting impression on me. She provides both the proof and the inspiration to invest in real-life experiences and establish healthy tech-life balance. The Joy of Missing Out has inspired me to pause several times a day and intentionally choose activities that connect me to the people I love and the life I want to live.”
—Rachel Macy Stafford, New York Times Best-selling Author of Hands Free Life 



(Buy from OR simply email your receipt from ChaptersIndigo/Amazon/Barnes&Noble to and you will receive your free ebook directly in your inbox.)  

“Deep down, we know something is up,” Crook says. It may be the reason her book has struck such a chord with readers. It comes down to her message that living online and creating picture-perfect Facebook personas isn’t living in light of God’s design.” - Steven Sukkau, Christian Week

It isn't working for us. 

The Joy of Missing Out offers Solutions for Living in a Wired World:

  • It reveals how key shifts in our thinking can enable us to draw closer to one another, taking up the good burdens of local work and responsibilities.
  • It explores the value of focus, the necessity of viewing the Web as a tool, and the meaning we find in more limited connections.
  • It reconsiders the Western values of power, control and success, revealing how wonder, trust and discipline are central to the experience of being human and the keys to our joy.

By understanding our online habits, we can form new ones — as we seek to be fully human in a smartphone world.


So, how do we want to begin the new year? 

This holiday season, let’s take advantage of the natural opportunity to unplug, setting clear intentions for our relationship with digital in 2016.

Commit to a Digital Detox this holiday season. There is simply no easier time in the calendar year. Set apart a minimum of 2 days completely free from the web: no email, Netflix, or Instagram. Just you. Your loved ones. A board game, a book, or an afternoon skating. Pay attention to how you feel, jot those emotions down. Better (and easier) yet, do it with a friend. 

Pull out your Canon and point and shoot like it's 1995. Let your camera be a camera without all the bells and whistles. Notice the kinds of moments you capture, and how the camera sitting on the coffee table doesn’t cause your heart to palpitate like your iPhone. Don't capture your holiday moments for public consumption. Instead, hold them close.  

Find a New Home for your phone. Most people park their phones in their bedroom overnight. Instead of using your phone as an alarm clock, purchase a cheap one and set up a new charging location in another room. End the day with at least an hour of screen-free time, and start the day the same. These are sacred moments that set the course for your day. Use them wisely. 

Save Yourself from push notifications. The bings, pings and vibrations from your smartphone are killing you. Turn them off. Yes: Every. Single. One. Take back control of your life. Do it before January 1st. There will be no turning back. 

Identify what Matters. What in the world sustains and moves you most deeply? Chances are, it’s not online. Name these things, write them down, and commit to pursuing them with all your heart in 2016. Life is short. 

Read The Joy of Missing Out this holiday season, preparing you to ring in a technically productive and privately peaceful new year. 

Remember: "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives."


Photo credit: Josh Felise

Photo credit: Josh Felise

“I think it's a loss of wildness that I am mourning and longing to recover. Our lives used to be in-person, they used to be so much more alive.  The technology, though amazing and wonderful in its ability to connect the world, isn't alive.”

- Dr. Susan Biali, in her review of The Joy of Missing Out

Let’s get back to life. There is life beyond the silo. You can find it. Let this book be your guide.


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I hope that this book, written with three little children in tow, written in the hopes of inspiring a deeper, more meaningful path in the 21st century, is life for you. 

- Christina

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